How We Met And Married After He Set Us Up by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo: MP3 Download & Sermon Notes

Two becoming one

In God's mind, when you come to get married, each one comes as an individual. When they get married, that individual dies. The entity ceases to exist. They now become one

If it was me and my wife, Kingsley and Mildred, it would be kindred. God no longer relates to the two separate persons. He sees them as one

Unfortunately in most homes, even after they become one on the altar, they go back as two different people and relate like that. They never get the best or the real intention of marriage

In God's design of marriage the two become one. That is the most powerful union ever

A man and a woman together is what really represents the image of God. Outside of that, one on one, you are not the total image

In God there is the judgment hand and the mercy hand. Men are usually hard. Women are usually merciful. Together they give the complete image of who God really is

God is the best matchmaker

Genesis 2:22

You have gotten the promise, so you don't need the scripture. You have the manifestation

That is the posture men should take. That is how Adam got married. God put him to sleep, that means rest Genesis 2:21

God worked it out and presented the woman, and Adam knew this was it. God is a master matchmaker, the best matchmaker

Her testimony

It was my very first time in that church. I was passing through from one state to another and had made a commitment that I would always go to church

I bought two books, one for me and one for a relationship I was just starting. The guy had a date with me that afternoon and he stood me up

I had peace in my mind. God told me to tell him I was not interested anymore. I was scared. What if this is the one? How do I let it go?

I took that step of faith

The day I sent him the message that I was not interested, this man slid into my DMs

After that experience, one thing I said was important is someone who communicates well and prioritizes how he is put together. I used to prioritize mundane things like looks and status that really didn't matter

His communication was superb, and till this day it is top tier. That is how I knew

We met about two weeks later. From a spiritual standpoint he checked the boxes: a man of God, a man who serves God, consistent, intentional, a man who keeps his word

That is how I knew it was a divine connection and not something that just happened on a whim

Before we met, one of my prayer points was Genesis 2:22. When God brought the promise, I felt I had to honor God by doing the wedding on the 22nd of February

His testimony

I was in a relationship for a long time and something happened, so we broke up. For almost a year I was heartbroken

That day I was on the piano while you were preaching. I am an introvert. I was the last person who would come out. When people shouted my name, I reluctantly came out

My friends asked, did you collect her number? I said no. They went and found her on Instagram. Some of these guys I had met less than a year before

I chatted her up about 3 days later. She responded well and we met. We spoke every day from that day.

We waited because I was finishing my master's program and planned to go back to Nigeria

I prayed a prayer. I told God I don't want to chase after any woman, I want you to bring the right person to me. I didn't know how God would answer.

Looking back, God answered that prayer

I could not have chosen her by myself. If I had seen her outside I probably wouldn't have approached her. God brought her to me

Marriage still takes learning

Some people think because God joins people together, God will do the work for you. If God tells both of us about marriage, it is going to work. No

It is like God telling you that you are going to be a medical doctor. You have to go to medical school. You are not going to start operating on people because God told you

Just because God orchestrates you to meet somebody, you still have to learn about marriage. Learn that person. Learn how to relate to that person. That is what will make it work

We are different people. We are learning to appreciate our differences

Word to those believing God for a partner

Marriage is older than the standards set by social media, by religious organizations, even by your spiritual father. God created marriage for union and unity. You have to go back to God

You can't take God out of our race or our journey. Some people think it is old school. No, God is still answering prayers

Trust God, hold on to him, and he will do it the way he wants it for you. You don't have to do it

If you have experienced a breakup

Take your time to heal. Don't rush into another relationship

In the first 3 months I saw one girl and took her to my mom. I said, Mommy, this is my wife. I just wanted to heal. That is love on the rebound.

It is real

One of the 25 wrong reasons people enter relationships is love on the rebound. My heart is broken and I have to fix it. I want my ex to know I am still in demand.

You use that person to heal the pain, and when you are healed, you don't want the person anymore

I was trying to look for my ex in that person. Everything she wasn't doing well, I told her she should do it the way my ex did

Give yourself time. You will know when you have healed. Then go to God and surround yourself with people. Speak to somebody. I was accountable to a pastor

To the ladies

Have unwavering faith, unshakeable faith. Your God ordained spouse is out there. Don't compromise

Get under good leadership. Be committed in your relationship to God, and at the right time he will bring your spouse to you

Like-minded people

There is nothing like being around like-minded individuals. That is the closest means to a solid connection

Do not be unequally yoked 2 Corinthians 6:14

Unequally yoked is not only spiritual. It is in mindset, financial, emotional, so many capacities