What They Won't Tell You About Late Marriage by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo: MP3 Download & Sermon Notes

Legacy matters

Genesis 24:1

God had blessed Abraham with long life, and in all things

Financially he was doing well. Socially he was doing well. Politically he was doing well. But his son had not married

So legacy matters. Whatever you acquire on this earth, if there is nobody to pass the burden to, it is as if your labour has been in futility

If there is no continuation, there will be no trace that you came

Abraham was okay in every area, but he was bothered that his son had no wife. He did not want to die and find out that Isaac stayed single forever

I am shocked at the number of 50 year old men I know that have never married. I am not talking about divorced men

Why does it pain me? For every man you see at 50 who never married, a whole generation is missing in his loins

The way spiritual things work, a man represents a generation. That is why they say the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. God is a generational God

For every 50 year old man not married, there is a woman somewhere crying and praying for somebody's husband

Marriage has a time span

Don't let anybody fool you that you can marry any time. Nature and biology are always pointing us to the wisdom of God

Your most vital season is between 20 and 30. Mary the mother of Jesus got married in her early teens

Anything after that, life becomes a bit complicated. I know the economy is hard, but don't line up so much with the economy that you ignore biology

Postponement is not the same as management. As you postpone, you are pushing today's trouble into tomorrow. A task you push to tomorrow becomes double

From your 30s you are more at risk with childbirth. By 35 they start calling you names like elderly primigravida. That is a high risk pregnancy

Most men do not know that your sperm also loses quality every year you add

By 40 your testosterone drops. A man of 45 who says his dream is to play for Nigeria at the World Cup is not at his peak

Your energy level is not the same

Your prime was given to you between 20 and 30. The economy is not the only fact on ground. Other facts exist too

Our parents had five children at minimum, many had seven, nine, ten. Today people can hardly have two because they start late

4 things the Bible says you must do when you are young:

1. Know the Lord in the days of your youth, so that the remaining decisions will make sense Ecclesiastes 12:1
2. Bear the burden in the days of your youth. Hustle early. Find your career path early and put yourself into it when you have no responsibility and when you have the energy Lamentations 3:27
3. The wife of your youth. 40 is not youth. 38 is not even youth
4. The children of your youth Psalm 127:4

I am not the one saying marry in the days of youth. It is God who said wife of your youth and children of your youth

Raising children takes energy. My son just turned 11 and I cannot keep up with his energy. We had a delay of about 8 years. Imagine starting your first child at 50

Postponement will catch you in front when you are older

And that assumes children come immediately. You may have a delay like we had. Many people marry and children do not come for 10 years

At 55 they have not come, so they start coming at 56. When you take your child to school people say, grandpa came today

Then you start paying university fees at 60 and 70, when your mates are relaxing

There are changes in your body they don't tell young men. From your 40s some of your hair will fall out. You won't be this strong forever

Illustration: the men's meeting

I went to a men's meeting as a young pastor and everybody was bald. I thought it was a new fashion trend and I was out of touch

Those men were not following a trend. They were just old, in their 40s and 50s, and all their hair was gone. Nobody prepares young men for these things

When you are 50 you don't even know how to toast again. Dating has moved beyond where you are

If you waste your youth, you have wasted something you can't recover. It gets worse from that point

Illustration: first born and last born

The way parents raise the first born is not how they raise the last. We are five in my house and I am the last

Daddy used to take the first born out for sports. When my brother went to the academy in Kaduna, my father took him from Lagos to drop him off

By the second born he did not travel beyond Lagos. By the third he did not even go to school with them

By my turn my parents were tired, and their income was not flowing as much as before. It was my brothers that paid my school fees

You will get tired. Your body is being worn out 2 Corinthians 4:16

You will be very wise but tired

Some of you are single but they already call you senior citizen

People call me daddy and papa. In my estate it just sounds like I am old

You can't postpone this issue. Your energy is going to run out. You won't raise those kids because you are old

Some of you are playing with not seeing your children's children, and that is a covenant of scripture

I beg my friends that are 50 something, give us somebody in your stead. All this wisdom, intelligence and spirituality, you have to marry and have children

Life expectancy in Nigeria is 55. Some of those friends are two years to life expectancy and not married. These are the facts

The power of mentoring and counselling

Genesis 24:2

Abraham was going to look for a wife for his son. He called the one who had stayed with him the most, the one in charge of everything, the senior person

Sometimes young people don't know what to look for in a wife or a husband. They need experienced people

Statistically, arranged marriages last better than love marriages. In our culture marriage was largely arranged, so hardly anybody stayed single till they died

Some people, if you leave them on their own, might never marry. So there was assistance

Illustration: how my parents married

My mother was in the youth fellowship in Enugu. The leader of the fellowship came to her house with my dad, who came from Lagos

He knocked and said, this man came from Lagos and he wants to marry you. She looked at him and said okay. The wedding was fixed in about 3 months

What takes us 13 years today is because we have ignored mentoring and experienced people. We are finding by ourselves

What is the chance that an ignorant person will find something reasonable? A newcomer in real estate cannot compare with an experienced person

The experienced one knows where to find the good lands, the verified lands, the ones that will not have issues. A Nigerian can be sold anything, and next week the government comes and carries the land

That fellowship leader knew all the ladies. He knew who would go with who better. He knew who was ready for marriage

Illustration: the Indian-American

Traveling to the United States, an Indian-American asked about my visa. I said I'm a marriage coach. He said, America needs you

He had never met his wife before. They just brought her, he married her, and they have lived peacefully for 20 something years

He said, these people always do love but their marriage never lasts. Arranged marriages always work better

One of my greatest regrets in 30 years of ministry is not helping single people get married earlier. I left it to preaching and praying

There are faithful ladies who serve the Lord and every year pray for a husband. Today we are almost 50 and they have not married

Not everybody who wants to be married is ready to be married. Some people's problem is not finding a husband. They are not findable or matchable. Those people need re-engineering

Some people are in love with their ex. Some think looking for a husband or wife is ordering online. Let him be tall, let him have a beard

It is not like that. Looking for a husband or wife is not a la carte, it is a buffet. You look at what is on the table and pick from it

Doctors advise a lady of 38 to go and freeze her eggs. A friend's wife in her 40s was told her eggs were not viable. They had to look for another person's egg

These are the things nobody talks about in church, but they will attack you for addressing the issue on ground

In every other area of life we assist people. Nobody trekks with a file looking for a job now. People check online

Why are we expecting somebody to find a wife by trekking? We must assist people. That is what Abraham did. He called his experienced servant

That servant was not free. He took 10 camels on the journey, with gold and many things

If you have not married before, you don't know what marriage is. It is like watching a movie about living abroad. Ask people that live there

So some of you think you know what you should choose in a wife. Ask people that have a wife what makes sense in a wife. Not the thing you are thinking

Illustration: I almost missed my wife

When I met her I liked everything about her. Smart, spiritual, we were friends. My only concern was that she was a bit chubby

As young people all we have been watching is an idea of women as slim. Some of those things you think are your spec are not your spec. It's what they have specked into you

Where did I get it from? Movies, adverts, beauty pageants. Have you married a slim woman before? It is speculation based on wrong information. It is a figment of your imagination

I was double minded about it, but thank God I went ahead. Today I ask her, you are slimmer now? She says no, I've added two dress sizes. I don't even notice

When you marry for the long term, behaviour is more important than shape

That slim girl you are talking about, if she is wicked, you will not want to be with her. Some men are so provoked by their wives, it affects the marriage bed

Attraction is not only physical. Most young people limit attraction to physical. You need the experience of people that can tell you the laws of attraction

Is this person our tribe?

Genesis 24:3-4

The next thing they looked at was, is this person our tribe?

In those days wherever you came from determined the god you worshipped. The Canaanites had their gods and the Israelites had theirs. So this is not about ethnic tribe

Don't say, I'm Yoruba, I must marry Yoruba. I'm Igbo, I must marry Igbo. Say, I'm a believer, I must marry a believer

If you are a born again Christian, marry another born again Christian 2 Corinthians 6:14-15

That scripture is not a suggestion. It is a fact

It means you can never be one flesh as the Bible puts it. If a dog marries a fish, where will they live? If a dog marries a bird, where will they live?

They are not suggesting. They are telling you the fact that the two of you can never be one

Willingness

Genesis 24:5-8

The next thing is willingness

Don't beg anybody to marry you. The journey is too far. Both of you must be willing

The most common question in my DM: Pastor, I love her so much, I send her data, I send her money, but she says she doesn't want to marry me. What should I do? Kidnap her?

I get the same from women: Pastor, I have given him money, I have given him my body, he says he doesn't want to marry me

If he is not willing, he is not willing. Marriage is such a long journey. Don't let anybody beg you into it and don't beg anybody into it

I have been married 20 years and it feels like I have just started. Anybody you beg will start complaining when the road gets tough

You will keep begging them throughout the journey. If they are not willing, leave them. Don't marry anybody that is not willing

Marry with an understanding of where you are going

Genesis 24:7

He is talking about the land they would be given

You will have a destiny. I knew I was called to ministry and I knew I would have a global ministry. I could not marry a local babe

Local does not mean just where she comes from. Does she have the capacity to fit into your future? Does he?

Don't marry a man whose dream of a wife is a woman that will be pounding yam alone, who believes the place of a woman is in the kitchen

If that is not your vision for yourself, he will stress you

I already knew I would marry a global person who would stand beside me and alongside me in ministry

I tell my wife, anybody can cook for me, but there are things you can do for me that nobody else can

Capacity

Genesis 24:10

The servant took 10 camels

You cannot enter marriage without capacity. There is the camel of finance. The camel of mental development and intelligence. The camel of spirituality. The camel of social skills

Marriage takes emotional, financial and mental capacity. It is not for boys, it is for men. He didn't go empty handed. He didn't go just typing poems

Illustration: the man who wanted a wife abroad

A man said, Pastor, all my family is in the UK, connect me to a woman in the UK. I said that is not a bad idea

But he said he did not have the money for the first step. I asked, what is your plan? Would you not buy her a gift on her birthday? Would you not spend data calling her?

When a man already has that irresponsible spirit, you know he will not raise his kids, because he still thinks there is something free on the earth

There is nothing free on the earth. If someone says salvation is free, you are not reading your Bible. It is the most expensive thing we have. Somebody killed his Son

God did not just forgive our sins, he paid. Forgiveness sounds like he looked at you and said okay, don't do it again. Somebody else took our place and went to hell for us

They flogged him with a Roman whip that had bone tied to the tip. They stripped him naked. He took the guilt, the shame and the punishment. It is insulting to say it is free

What is interpreted as forgiveness of sins is actually the taking away of sins, the cancellation of sin

John did not say forgives John 1:29

Illustration: the stolen phone

If Tunde stole my phone and I forgive him, everybody still knows he stole it. Every time he passes near my phone I say, bro, you have come again. He still has the shame and the guilt

What Jesus did was this. My phone was missing, and before they could trace it to him, Sam came and said, I am the one that stole the phone

We did not tell him don't do it again. We said, do you know the punishment? He said yes Romans 6:23

So they gave him the full punishment: guilt, shame and going to hell. Jesus went to hell

If Sam is the one we punished, there is no record, no trace of the stealing of that phone. It does not exist at all

If God forgave casually, he would be an unjust God, because that would mean breaking the law is not a problem

If the fine for crossing a red carpet is 500k and three people cross and you say I forgive you, you are not serious. Then another person is arrested and punished fully

When Christians tell me salvation is free, I say you don't read your Bible. Church is not free either

We pretend to the unchurched that it is free. The moment they join we tell them the true situation. There is tithe. There is seed, special seed and sacrificial seed. Church is only free to the uncommitted

Anytime somebody offers you something free, they are tricking you

Satan plays the free trick a lot. Sleep with her, it's free. That is his biggest trick. Nothing is free. There is always a hidden cost, a hidden charge

That is why borrowing is not good. You pay small small and it gets harder

Positioning

Genesis 24:11

He went to a well of water, at the time women go out to draw water

He didn't go randomly around the city trekking and sweating. He went to the right place at the right time

Stop shouting and crying to God. We need to put you in the right place at the right time. The right time is now that you are young

In those days the well was a center of activity for men and women. It was a social point. That is where Jesus met the woman who had six husbands John 4

All predators know that when food is cast, go where water is, because everything they want to eat must come and drink water

That well can be your church. You can't be in church and not be a worker. How would they see you? Workforce is one of the easiest ways people marry

Be active in your church. Don't rush out before they finish sharing the grace. Hang around. Greet people. Walk slowly

Some women think men are always bold. Sometimes we are not bold. We are still gathering ourselves

If they say excuse me, answer well. Forget your sorrow. Smile

As a woman, learn how to carry on a conversation. Don't give one line answers. How are you? Fine. Where are you? Home. You are making the man work hard

The woman at the well knew how to carry on a conversation John 4:9

Marriage is not 100% a spiritual thing. There is a physical aspect to it. As long as you hang around certain people, there is a high chance people will fall in love in that circle

That is why office romance happens a lot. Same place seven days a week, solving problems together, eating together. Romance always comes

Be around. Don't always hide in your house. Be around activity. Even if you have none physically, be active online

Be active on Christian pages, on worship pages. When a song blesses you, write that comment. Don't just think it and scroll

Write intelligent comments so that other intelligent people will see you and engage with you. Don't be among those that insult people in the comment section

Some women don't have a single good picture. Take professional pictures on your birthday. Many people have found a husband like that

Illustration: the lady of 57

In Atlanta a lady of about 57 asked, I dated a man in my group, it didn't lead to marriage, and another man in the same group wants to date me. What should I do?

I said, you need to tell us how, almost at 60, you have two men toasting you

She said it is simple. It is a group with many divorcees and widowed men of her age, and there are more men than women

If there are eight men and two women in a room, there is a high chance those men will be interested in the women. It is mathematics. It is not a miracle

It is not Satan stopping you. You are just always in the wrong place. Marriage is not always spiritual

Some people don't need prayer for marriage. They need prayer for sense and positioning

Prayer

Genesis 24:12

The servant prayed

You definitely need prayer, but you need to know how to pray. Pray for wisdom. Pray in faith

Don't pray out of panic. Don't pray out of fear. Don't pray like God is your enemy. Don't pray like God is fighting you

Some people's issues are spiritual. There are people who are prayed for, some things are broken over their life, and in a matter of weeks a man appears

You must know how to pray prayers of self deliverance, where you declare and break any connections and soul ties

We have seen situations where everyone a certain person dated has no children, although they all got married. We have seen people that every person they dated never married, except by some intervention

Don't take this journey lightly Proverbs 19:14

So we need to pray for steps to be ordered and eyes to be open. Some people have seen their husband or wife and could not recognize them

Know the specific traits you want

Genesis 24:14

People think he was fleecing or trying his luck. That the first guy wearing red, the first person to say hello. That is not what he was doing

He was talking about specific traits of a good wife. Kind enough to give an old man water and also give his camels water

Kindness. Hardworking. Domestically inclined. A heart of service. Compassion. He knew the qualities to look for in a wife

Many men would have said, Lord, the first woman with shape. The first yellow girl

This was a well, not a tap. This girl was drawing water for 10 camels. It takes energy

Many guys have such women in their life and don't see them. A woman who is selling shoes, selling foodstuff, cooking for people. You say she doesn't always make her hair

Do you know the work she is doing? She is busy. That is why she has no time to make her hair

Illustration: the young man who likes fine girls

One of my boys is smart and deep spiritually but not married. Every girl he dates leaves after they find out he is an upcoming guy. His problem is he likes fine girls

He sent me a girl's page with a caveat: I know she looks bad, but in real life she is not like that

I told him, that thing you are thinking, you should be thinking it, when you see a girl in hotels, private jets and exotic holidays in 300 to 400 pictures and no work

When you marry that kind of person, you can't maintain it. Your one month salary does not even buy her cream

Where is the work? Somebody is paying. The hotel is not free

This man in the scripture was an old man, not an eligible guy. She had no reason to be kind to him except that she was a kind person

There are women who are only kind to eligible guys

Marry a kind woman. Marry a kind man. This is why marriages are struggling. Some people married wicked souls

That kind of wickedness is not today's. It is not because you offended them. They are wicked normally

People lock the kitchen, lock the fridge, lock the pot. That is not because you provoked them. They are wicked

When you see good couples, even when they are fighting, you can still see care and compassion

Service is one of the fastest ways to get married. Be genuinely a servant. Somebody will notice you where you serve

That is how Ruth got married. She was serving her mother-in-law and was not hoping to meet a man Ruth 2

There is a grace attached to serving. Don't be in church and just attend and go. Serve

Don't treat kindness as a strategy. Do it as a lifestyle

People are only kind when they want to manipulate you. Whoever says, after all I have done for you, was expecting something. They never gave from their heart

Character and purity

Genesis 24:15-16

Nothing is as nice as a fine girl that still has character. When they are so fine they can be brash and look down on everybody, because everybody gives them attention

Even if you don't think you are fine physically, if you are fine internally you will eventually be seen as fine physically

She was a virgin. Just because you are waiting to get married, please don't be messing around

That delays things, because you are giving out the aura of somebody occupied in the realm of the spirit. In the spirit they read occupied, occupied

Your name shows single, but in the spirit you show occupied

Diligence, and a helper

Genesis 24:17-20

She was respectful. She was diligent

Men say, girls of nowadays always want money, gifts, phone. It is the type you are chasing

The first thing they call the woman is a helper, not an eater Genesis 2:18

You always look for girls that will take from you. The ones that say hello and the next thing is their phone is bad, their rent is due. You can identify a taker, not a giver

Those ones have three or four bad days in a year. A bad birthday is the first billing. Somebody who celebrates in February has another bad day in August because he met you in July

There are still good women out there. Godly women ready to walk with you, start life with you and grow with you

Don't join the gender war. Men are scum, women are scam. It is a lie. It is the type you are chasing

The reason many men don't marry is that they see marriage as a liability, because they date a liability

Many men say, I want to have everything ready before I look for a wife. It is because you want things ready that you should look for a wife quickly, so that you have somebody helping you

A good wife is a multiplier of everything in your life. My life changed when I married my wife. Things that were moving slowly began to move fast

When I am alone I pack things with two hands. With a wife we have four hands

Ecclesiastes 4:9

The labour will produce more than it did before marriage

Illustration: two coming together

When he is single he knows 10 important people. She also knows 10. Once they marry, the union knows more people. Their chance of success has increased

If he is in real estate and knows 30 people that can buy houses, and she knows 30 more, their chances of selling have increased

Before I met my wife I always knew I would go on TV. I did not know she used to work in TV. She had contacts at Silverbird Television and they opened the door for our program

Before I met her I wanted to write books, but they were only ideas. I can talk but writing is not my thing. She can write. She read English

When she came, all my books started coming out

A woman is an incubator. It is not only sperm they put inside a woman. Put your dreams there, she will incubate it

All the single men say, I'm looking for money. The money is inside your wife, but you are waiting to find the money before you marry her

The time you are starting life is the best time to pick a wife, not when you have made it. When you have made it, anybody can marry you

Information changes attraction

Don't you see 20 something year old models marrying billionaires of 80 who have no teeth?

Physical attraction is the most useless thing in this life. It can change depending on information

If I tell you this microphone is $10,000, you say it doesn't make sense. If I tell you it is the last microphone Michael Jackson used before he died, that 10k is even cheap

Information changes how you see it. I saw a car in Qatar where you can customize the paint. I liked a color, then they said the paint alone is $120,000. The attraction disappeared straight

Look for a kind person, a kind man, a kind woman that loves you

There are only 3 things you need to pick somebody, whether you should marry them or not:

• That they love God
• That they love you

The rest is not that deep. Height, a beard, a six pack. When he is older his hair will fall off

If you have six school fees to pay, you can't have a six pack

Speak up

Genesis 24:22-23

If you like a girl, speak up. Talk to her. Women are also praying to marry. They are waiting for you

Just know how to package yourself. Don't go and share all your family problems. Don't declare how broke you are. You can't be broke and still not know how to talk

Learn the power of simple gifts. He had 10 camels, but he brought a gold earring and bracelets. It shows the gesture of kindness

Women are responsive lovers. They react based on the energy you give. Sell yourself well

Start from friendship. Men want to close the deal immediately. She might look good but not be good

Friendship, then relationship. Who is her father? Is there room in your father's house?

Send her a chat. Send her a DM. Greet her in church. Ask for her number. She won't kill you

The most she can say is no, and that leaves you where you started. Things have not gotten worse

Don't be angry if somebody doesn't want to marry you. The person must be willing. The same way you can't pick everybody that wants you, everybody you want might not pick you

Be able to handle rejection as a man or a woman. It is part of life. My wife was not the first lady I wanted to marry

Illustration: the seat behind her

We were doing a leadership course. I spotted a girl who sat on the other side, so the next day I changed where I sat and began to sit behind her

After class I said, did you get the note? Borrow me your note. We had started talking but I could sense from her energy she was not interested

So I went back to my seat. Nothing to worry about, no fight inside

Authority figures: don't date in secret

Genesis 24:24-29

She had authority figures she had to talk to. Don't marry in secret. Don't date in secret

If a man or a woman shows interest in you, talk to your leadership. Talk to your mentor. If you are close to your pastor, talk to your pastor

Some of the biggest crises I have seen people enter is when they date in secret

Somebody is dating you and never posts you. He said, don't tell anybody, it's between me and you. It is a big lie

There is a difference between secrecy and privacy. Privacy means the whole world must not know, but important people have to know

Secrecy is when nobody knows. He only comes at night like a thief in the night. Never identifies with you, never walks into church with you, never sits with you

Don't even start a relationship without talking to somebody

When my wife and I started, one of the first things I did was take her to my mentors

I said, these are the people I respect. If I am misbehaving or you can't get to me in any area, report me to them

That is how to lead as a man. You want somebody to follow you, but you don't follow leadership?

You don't teach women submission. You show women submission Philippians 2:5-8

Jesus showed us what it means to submit to God, so that we can learn how to submit to you

A married man who doesn't participate in anything announced in church but wants his wife to submit to him, it doesn't work that way. You must show you are a man under authority

Leadership is not domination. It is not oppression. As an African man, when you read submission in the Bible it scatters your head, because you have never seen leaders. You have only had rulers

It is not normal in our kingdom to physically beat a person. Some beat their wife and say, I'm just correcting her

Authority figures matter for accountability. There were people in our church who had a girlfriend in each service. All the girls think they are the only one

The moment they bring you to the pastor and the pastor knows both of you, he can ask questions. Anytime he sees anything strange he can call the brother

Some people change church and follow the girl or the boy to their church, as if you don't have spiritual parents in your house. You have already shown you don't have respect for yourself

Let him come and talk to you. You have parents. Rebekah said, follow me, come and meet my parents

Your pastor, as a man of God, can see things you don't see and can warn you

Illustration: the boyfriend

A daughter in our church brought her boyfriend to me. We had a standard that we must meet the person

The way he shook me, I said this guy is not born again. If he were born again he would be in a church and would have been taught behaviour

If he shakes his spiritual father like this, he is not yet grounded

I said, I'm not saying don't marry him. I'm saying give it time so you see his true self

She was angry and left church. Her mother sent for me. I was a young pastor then. The mother said, I have three divorces and my husband has two. We know what we are doing

In my mind I said, that is the exact reason she needs mentoring and guidance Proverbs 11:14

They joined another church and married there. In less than two years they were divorced. Beating, fighting, war

Spiritual authority matters. Accountability matters

Sell yourself well

Genesis 24:33-36

He would not eat until he had said why he came. He understood decorum and behaviour

He introduced where he came from

He sold himself well. When you meet your in-laws, don't start with all the bad things in your life. Don't say my grandmother is a witch. Don't say my mother is a priest of a shrine

I once saw a lady dating a woman's son. She told the mother, we have witchcraft in our family, in our family people marry but don't have children. The relationship ended

Sell your future. Sell assurance that you will make it. If your present is not pleasant, talk about your future

Don't say, I don't know how we will make it, things are tight. That is not what they are asking you

He did not just start eating. When you go to your in-laws, you have not even greeted and you have started washing hands

Even when they leave you alone in the parlour, they might be spying. Don't relax. Don't start looking around their house

You must have wisdom in relating with your in-laws. Don't challenge them when they say, we want the wedding in so and so place. Say, yes ma'am

Later, you and your fiance discuss, then carefully break it down to them. Some old people are more interested in the respect than the decision

Share testimonies. Words always affect people. Say, see where we started from and see where we have reached

Every parent wants to make sure you can take care of their child

If they ask, are you a graduate? And you are not, don't just say what you are not. Say what you are. Talk about what you have. Don't talk about what you don't have

Divine confirmation

Genesis 24:50

That is divine confirmation. The thing came from God in the journey of getting married

Please ask God. Pray. Don't take it for granted because everything looks good

There are too many fake people, people with serious problems they won't show you immediately. So give it time and pray

Colossians 3:15

Let people you trust also pray along with you. Pray, Lord, if there is anything I am not seeing about this person, let me see it

In one or two weeks he will just show himself. Don't be too excited and start printing wedding cards and looking for an engagement ring online

Pray, and God will guide you in Jesus name